[AIRPOWER]

Tell her to be happy with your big dick, it's a lot more rare than a $50K diamond.

[David70]

Originally Posted by Verbiage

Regular BJ's and swallowing works for me.

Are you good at it? I guess everyone has their skills.

[Chez]

I spent $13k (significantly less than 3 months salary) on my wife's ring and she thinks I'm crazy for having spent that much.

It shouldn't matter if you spend $100k or $5. A ring is merely symbolic and the significance, rather than the value is what should matter.

I'd run.

[Verbiage]

Originally Posted by David70

Are you good at it? I guess everyone has their skills.

[Aatish]

Wait a second, op's 3 months pay is $50,000?

[Bkborn]

The ring I bought my wife was $1000 dollars on a poor mans budget, and that was the engagement ring. She loved it. My wife is low maintenance and I love her for that, Not to say she doesn't like nice or expensive things but it's love before any material thing in our life. I recently upgraded the ring though, Not even over 5 grand because "I" wanted to. She was perfectly fine with the first one.

[Alfisti]

I have a related story, slightly OT but i guess you guys will like it.

I was in Toronto for only a few months before i planned to propose and there was a big arse sign near my office that read "DIAMONDS". So i say to the then girlfriend that i am heading out and i head to said store.

It's kinda quiet but open so I open the door and go in, cue strippers everywhere!!

Seriously got my wires crossed but it would not have been a good look.

[David70]

Originally Posted by atxgt3

I'm not married yet, but I live with my girlfriend. It's heading towards marriage, and I'll definitely get a prenup and keep accounts separate. As a business owner I don't have a choice, it would be irresponsible to risk my businesses and my employees.

When it comes to bills we both contribute what makes sense and we take care of our own expenses. She pays for her car, I pay for the house that I already had, etc. All accounts are separate and she does her own saving and retirement, I do mine. We'll keep that the same and just keep contributing towards expenses together as it makes sense.

As to your college scenario, if she was the type of person to blow all her money and not contribute or save then I wouldn't be with her in the first place.

I'm pretty sure assets and debts brought into the marriage are separate as the rule, not the exception. Maybe some states are different but as long as you make an effort to keep it separate (i.e. don't start commingling accounts) then it should stay separate.

Same thing with inheritance, even if a spouse inherits a large sum of money during marriage it's theirs alone unless you start commingling. So marrying a girl with rich parents won't necessarily work lol.

All of this makes sense. I was married about 10 years ago, we were pretty equal on what we had when we go married (both had a house not a lot else). I make a lot more than her but if things didn't work out (no reason to believe they won't but who knows) I would be ok with splitting everything 50/50.

If we had kept everything separate I could retire much younger than she would be able to, not sure how this would work or if it is really fair for two people supposedly together for life. I guess I could tell her tough luck for going into the field she went into. LOL.

Without the really well done prenup (then still not sure) I would wonder what happens if your business goes from being really small to really big while you are married. Example, when married total value of business was $50k, 15 years later it is worth $10 million. I don't think just keeping finances separate works everywhere.

[DfVgyCjmFQnu]

Originally Posted by MightyMouseTech

Give her a $500 ring. If she is happy with it, then she may be the one for you. If she says no because of the ring, then count your blessings and move on.

Agree 100%.

Wanting you to spend that much money on a worthless rock is a huge red flag. She's going to drain you once married if she really cares about her wedding ring.

[PoorLurker]

Seems like the three month pay rule isn't linear.

Plus, I think it's actually two months.

Source:

[MKSixer]

Originally Posted by Verbiage

Nice! So you will let me drive yours?

Perhaps.

[MadDog]

Originally Posted by Verbiage

Are you in support of making people retest for their license at a certain age? I know that MadDog and company would be losing their licenses tomorrow if this was the case, but I've thought long and hard about every old person I've seen slowly drive through red lights and drive the wrong way down one way streets only to curse me out for honking at them.

I'm not THAT old.

[MKSixer]

As I listened to Gold Digger this morning this flooded into my mind during the '18 years, 18 years stanza

3 Months Pay,
3 Months Pay,

You bought her a ring, it cost you 3 months Pay.


I'm not much of a lyricist so can one of my BP-OT friends help me out, here and finish this?

[jstnstr]

Thread update:
We got divorced. Shocker! Just got the official papers back so I'm celebrating with a new ///M. Sorry to bump an old thread, I just happened across it and never realized it went 14 pages

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by jstnstr

Thread update:
We got divorced. Shocker! Just got the official papers back so I'm celebrating with a new ///M. Sorry to bump an old thread, I just happened across it and never realized it went 14 pages

I'm glad you updated it actually - provides some history for others who might be in the same situation.

Sorry to hear of the divorce, can't say I am surprised. No kids right?

Enjoy the new M!

[1MOREMOD]

That was fast

[jstnstr]

Originally Posted by Joekerr

I'm glad you updated it actually - provides some history for others who might be in the same situation.

Sorry to hear of the divorce, can't say I am surprised. No kids right?

Enjoy the new M!

Yeah. Same. Nope no kids with her- I do have a son from a previous relationship but we were never married... and thank you!

Originally Posted by 1MOREMOD

That was fast

IT DIDNT FEEL FAST

[someguywithanm3]

Originally Posted by jstnstr

Thread update:
We got divorced. Shocker! Just got the official papers back so I'm celebrating with a new ///M. Sorry to bump an old thread, I just happened across it and never realized it went 14 pages

I wasn't around for the original thread, but what happened? Was she high maintenance?

[stevenc]

Wasn't around for the first part of the thread either. Sorry you got divorced.

Ive been engaged three times, bought rings three times but luckily, never went through with the marriage the first two times. There were warning signs and i luckily listened the first couple times. Married the third one, happy i did.

Speaking of the rings, each lady insisted their ring was better than the last lady. So i spent $12k, then $15k, then $22k. Even the $22k ring is less than 1 month salary but as a CPA i don't blow money frivolously.

For those thinking of buying a ring. Buy a nice ring that she will be proud of but don't be stupid with spending tons of money if you cant afford it. Financial problems are the number 1 reason for divorce. Be smart with money! If she wants a ring better than her friends ring even if she knows you cant really afford it, then she is not the right girl for you!

[bimmer456]

The value of the ring seems to have many on this thread thinking she will take the ring if you divorce. If her family is wealthy and she makes more than you then you are marrying up and a divorce would have you coming out ahead. Though it is concerning that she cares about the value of the ring but maybe she just wants to keep up with her friends. If your relationship is genuine it should not be about money. And that will shine brighter than any ring. Is her family paying for the wedding and are you paying for the honeymoon? The idea is not to be broke so your families will pick up much of the tab. I'm assuming you can afford the lifestyle she wants.

[upstatedoc]

Originally Posted by jstnstr

Thread update:
We got divorced. Shocker! Just got the official papers back so I'm celebrating with a new ///M. Sorry to bump an old thread, I just happened across it and never realized it went 14 pages

did you get the ring back?

[Scharbag]

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

did you get the ring back?