[stressdoc]

When you are married money is a communal property, and important financial decisions should be a joint effort. My wife would never get a bimmer, but she realizes how much I love these cars and that is enough for her to be OK with it. Don't think she appreciates how I am brainwashing our 3 boys into the next generation of Bimmerphiles though.

Plus she keeps me a bit more rational. Otherwise I might be driving a M3, and down on myself for spending all that $.

[phantom330]

my wife is a car freak..........it can be good and bad. She has no problem with my 335, but she expects something similar for herself

[John 070]

That's just what marriage is all about. I've never known a guy to be able to choose the house, even if he's got the 7 figure salary and she makes barely 6. How the house will be done-up is usually up to the wife. With that being said, I don't know of any guy who let his wife choose the car. Not one. How many women are on this forum? Probably all of 3 or 4. We just have a greater interest level in automobiles. What I will say, however, is I've seen males choose the car, and within a week, the wife is driving it daily. My cousin got a 750i and wouldn't you know it, his wife drives it to work. Another friend, a STS4, and wife took it over. Maybe I'm too much of a newlywed, but if it were me, the guy's new car would stay parked in the garage, and the wife can be gosh darn satisfied driving the MDX. But that's me. Not all guys have spines.

[unagi1]

Originally Posted by John 070

That's just what marriage is all about. I've never known a guy to be able to choose the house, even if he's got the 7 figure salary and she makes barely 6. How the house will be done-up is usually up to the wife. With that being said, I don't know of any guy who let his wife choose the car. Not one. How many women are on this forum? Probably all of 3 or 4. We just have a greater interest level in automobiles. What I will say, however, is I've seen males choose the car, and within a week, the wife is driving it daily. My cousin got a 750i and wouldn't you know it, his wife drives it to work. Another friend, a STS4, and wife took it over. Maybe I'm too much of a newlywed, but if it were me, the guy's new car would stay parked in the garage, and the wife can be gosh darn satisfied driving the MDX. But that's me. Not all guys have spines.

Time will wear you down my friend...

I'm into it 18 months and still fighting!

[stressdoc]

Different strokes... House/land choice is a huge deal for me. I think it's more of a rural farm vs. suburbia difference.

I agree that males are way more interested in cars in general. It is a good trait in a wife that she understands and respects what stuff is important for you, and v.v.

[John 070]

Originally Posted by kennyg

+1 regarding immaturity on both sides, i.e. getting into a huge fight over a car. It IS a big purchase however and money is always a big deal in life even if it shouldn't be. Another trick is to really favor the wishes of whoever will drive it most. In my case I will be driving the bimmer more so my choice had a little more weight, but wanted her to like it too. If/when we upgrade her Suburu Forester she'll get her choice but I will likely have influence if say she chose a Chevy Aveo or some crap like that.

haha haven't you ever noticed that money is not usually a factor on this forum? I've rarely seen any good financial advice, nor actually sound financial judgement. And positions are always to the extreme. If you hesitate on getting a 335 loaded, then you must not even consider an Accord and go straight to a Kia. Women actually are usually pretty good at understanding the notion of marginal benefit > marginal cost, except when it comes to their jewelry. I've yet to meet a woman who asks for a GIA report upon engagement--that's where men often seem to cheap-out.

[stimpy]

This is a prime example of why you have different finances with your wife. You have a joint bank account which you pay joint bills out of (house, utilities, groceries) and then you have your own bank accounts for your car, taking each other on dates, etc. This method is very black and white and cuts out on a lot of the fights couples have these days.

It's a dual income world these days...
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[phantom330]

Originally Posted by stimpy

This is a prime example of why you have different finances with your wife. You have a joint bank account which you pay joint bills out of (house, utilities, groceries) and then you have your own bank accounts for your car, taking each other on dates, etc. This method is very black and white and cuts out on a lot of the fights couples have these days.

It's a dual income world these days...

kind of defeats the purpose of marriage......why get married if you're going to do everything separate, just date the person. It should be all one, if you can't work as a team towards your goals you shouldn't be together. Just my .02

[Lassaxi]

Originally Posted by stimpy

This is a prime example of why you have different finances with your wife. You have a joint bank account which you pay joint bills out of (house, utilities, groceries) and then you have your own bank accounts for your car, taking each other on dates, etc. This method is very black and white and cuts out on a lot of the fights couples have these days.

It's a dual income world these days...

OR, you and your wife could stop acting like selfish brats and (1) make responsible purchases and (2) share your money and possesions like mature adults.

[que2k]

I ordered my car a month before I popped the question but I still asked what my gf now fiancee thought.

I got what I wanted - 335xi sedan. She knew that I had been dreaming about getting this car since the E90 came out (back then I was dreaming of a 330xi).

I even asked her I should get auto so maybe she could drive it (remember this is before we got engaged so I was thinking of the future) and she said realistically shes too afraid shes gonna damage so she doesnt want to drive it so get 6MT cuz thats what you really want.

O, and on the safety thing she thought it was a good safe car with plenty of room in the back for kids in the future.

Marriage should be a compromise........however I got her one hell of a rock so she got something shiny and now so am I - should be taking delivery in about a week!!!

[kennyg]

Originally Posted by stimpy

This is a prime example of why you have different finances with your wife. You have a joint bank account which you pay joint bills out of (house, utilities, groceries) and then you have your own bank accounts for your car, taking each other on dates, etc. This method is very black and white and cuts out on a lot of the fights couples have these days.

It's a dual income world these days...

Actually I don't think this is such a bad idea in this day and age. . .also allows you to surprise each other with gifts etc. And also ensures if things ever do go sour (god forbid) you both have made sure at a time when you were together and of sound mind that you both would protect yourself. Or even just to ensure both people stay up-to-date with the finances etc. in case something ever happened to one person and the other had to fend for the family etc.

[kennyg]

Originally Posted by THE JEDI

Hey I got great respect for my wife your wife and everybodies wife.....not the point of getting into a fight ..but I think the point I was making......IF YOU PAY FOR IT..get what you want....but to fight about a car is stupid..but hell stand ya ground......if not a car today house the next....then ya tie then ya shoes then ya friends then ya dog then hell what else is next.

Good point. Bitch better not make me throw out my superman underoos

A man is not complete until the day he gets married, and after that he is finished. - Unknown

No seriously though I'm looking forward to getting married next Saturday!

[darkphantom]

You know, when I got my car, my GF told me why I was getting it and that it'll be something that I will obsess over........she's right, good thing I got it before the marriage I know that when I'm married, it will be really different in terms of my spending habits on automobiles, so enjoying it while I can

[mistermojorizin]

you guys are taking a very black and white approach to this. the girl's opinion is a factor. period. how much of a factor is the question. if its a car i really want, that might outweigh her opinion. but if its a car that i like but not completely set on then i can take her thoughts into consideration.

[Jet335i]

Originally Posted by que2k

however I got her one hell of a rock so she got something shiny and now so am I - should be taking delivery in about a week!!!

that's all it came down to with my gf...I'll probably propose to her in the next 9-12 months and she keeps a mental tally of what I spend on myself so when i used to mod the hell out of my old car, and when i got my 335i, she said "that's fine, as long as my ring is as nice as your car." uh oh...

damn good thing i got the car before its official.

[fdiprete]

Originally Posted by THE JEDI

Hey I got great respect for my wife your wife and everybodies wife.....not the point of getting into a fight ..but I think the point I was making......IF YOU PAY FOR IT..get what you want....but to fight about a car is stupid..but hell stand ya ground......if not a car today house the next....then ya tie then ya shoes then ya friends then ya dog then hell what else is next.

I pay for and drive what I want and can afford.
My sig-o pays for and drives what she wants and can afford.
End of story.

[achenator]

Originally Posted by fdiprete

I pay for and drive what I want and can afford.
My sig-o pays for and drives what she wants and can afford.
End of story.

I drive what I can afford. My wife drives what I can afford. LOL.

[scottwww]

My wife said, "Why do you even ask my opinion. You know you are going to do it anyway." So I did. Big ticket items usually go like that.

Once in awhile she says something about how I never let her drive the bimmer. But she has driven it three times on road trips when I needed a break from the wheel.

...come to think of it, my wife had more say in this car than I was saying. I would have bought a two-seater (I was looking at a Honda S2000 and then the Z4 once I was on the BMW lot). She insisted on four seats. So, I picked out what I liked with four seats.

[OC Guy]

Originally Posted by Lassaxi

Look, nothing against your friend, but I usually have enough respect for my wife to take her wishes into consideration when buying a car that we are both going to be driving. I don't know the circumstances under which she was asking for a new car, so I can't comment on whether asking for a Volvo was reasonable or not, but pulling the "It's my money, I'll get what I want" routine is rather immature. If someone has a problem sharing his money with his wife, he shouldn't be married.

+1

[tomegun]

Things like this are always funny to me. The husband wants something, the woman wants something and it is always the husbands job to respect their wives. OK, whatever. What about the woman respecting her husband.

I would look at the situation as a whole and there should be balance between a husband and wife. The wife shouldn't be so dominant that the man cannot make any decisions on his own. If that is the case, there is something else wrong IMO.

[Arustik1]

thank god my chick is in love with my 3

[lipek]

my ex wife didn't care for cars(or me lol) much, my current girlfriend loves my e90 and wants a bimmer for her when she's done with college it's between 335 or z4