[shimshimhada]

Originally Posted by Enroutte

LOL. it shouldddd say that.

mi carro es de color negro me gusta mi HEART-O

haha.. yeah bad translation.

Ich spreche Spanisch nicht.

[Nikki]

cheer up emo kid.

[Nikki]

Originally Posted by Enroutte

why are you sad? its christmas!! be happy!

because of this whole situation.........welll i guess i haven't explained it here but it is really messed up. it involves me, my boyfriend, his friend, some alcohol, and a hotel room. let's just say things are a little weird right now.

[shimshimhada]

Originally Posted by Nikki

cheer up emo kid.

Oh HELL no...

[shimshimhada]

Originally Posted by Nikki

because of this whole situation.........welll i guess i haven't explained it here but it is really messed up. it involves me, my boyfriend, his friend, some alcohol, and a hotel room. let's just say things are a little weird right now.

[Nikki]

i didn't cheat on him though.

[shimshimhada]

Originally Posted by Nikki

i didn't cheat on him though.

Oh...well, did he cheat on you?

[Nikki]

no he didn't

[Enroutte]

did u guys have a 3some? that can make things weird

[shimshimhada]

Originally Posted by Enroutte

did u guys have a 3some? that can make things weird

You have a filthy mind.

[shimshimhada]

Did you guys have a throw up marathon, and messed up the room?

[Enroutte]

Originally Posted by shimshimhada

Oh...well, did he cheat on you?

I HAVE A FILTHY MIND? please.

[shimshimhada]

Originally Posted by Enroutte

I HAVE A FILTHY MIND? please.

Cheating on somebody doesn't have to involve sexual activities, little one.

[Enroutte]

Originally Posted by shimshimhada

Cheating on somebody doesn't have to involve sexual activities, little one.

then how else wouldk you cheat?

kissing counts.

[Enroutte]

i have strept throat.. i can feel it coming.

[shimshimhada]

Originally Posted by Enroutte

i have strept throat.. i can feel it coming.

It must be from all that swallowing.

[Xens]

Originally Posted by Nikki

I don't know...I guess I'm just bored and miss being excited about being in love. My past three relationships have turned out this way. I'm not trying to find anyone else, but I slowly found myself having feelings for someone else, and when I told him, he said he didn't feel the same way. You can't control your feelings, but you can control your actions. Maybe I shouldn't have even said anything, but I'm not one that can easily hide what I am feeling.

Learn to communicate, in this case with your bf. Let him know that you are not actually feeling excited by your relationship with him anymore, then both of you can make some efforts to spark things up again. If you don't learn to do that, then there's no relationship that will last. We are all human so we all get bored, the important thing is to learn how to make things interesting again.

Or if you just plain want other people, then break up and go date other people. Of course, it's much harder to break up THEN find someone else than opposed to, say, find somebody first then break up. You can do whatever you want, nobody can actually have the authority to judge you. But one thing I always remind myself is that if I want to be treated a certain way, then I make sure to treat others the same way.

Anyways, it's actually surprisingly easy to put the sparks back in a relationship if both parties care for each other enough to put in some real efforts. Most relationships fail because one or both parties just don't give a damn anymore, but are hanging on because of fear of loneliness.

A little flirting here and there doesn't hurt and is actually healthy for a long lasting relationship AS LONG as you know what you are doing and recognize that it's only a flirt and nothing more. But when you are taking things more seriously then I'd say there is a problem and you need to sit down and talk to your bf about it.

It's not hard to attain satisfaction both emotionally and sexually, but the 2 people in the relationship gotta be on the same page to be able to pull it off together.

Not all of my above comments are directly aimed at your current situation, some are just hypothetical examples to help you set a perspective.

[shimshimhada]

Originally Posted by Xens

Learn to communicate, in this case with your bf. Let him know that you are not actually feeling excited by your relationship with him anymore, then both of you can make some efforts to spark things up again. If you don't learn to do that, then there's no relationship that will last. We are all human so we all get bored, the important thing is to learn how to make things interesting again.

Or if you just plain want other people, then break up and go date other people. Of course, it's much harder to break up THEN find someone else than opposed to, say, find somebody first then break up. You can do whatever you want, nobody can actually have the authority to judge you. But one thing I always remind myself is that if I want to be treated a certain way, then I make sure to treat others the same way.

Anyways, it's actually surprisingly easy to put the sparks back in a relationship if both parties care for each other enough to put in some real efforts. Most relationships fail because one or both parties just don't give a damn anymore, but are hanging on because of fear of loneliness.

A little flirting here and there doesn't hurt and is actually healthy for a long lasting relationship AS LONG as you know what you are doing and recognize that it's only a flirt and nothing more. But when you are taking things more seriously then I'd say there is a problem and you need to sit down and talk to your bf about it.

It's not hard to attain satisfaction both emotionally and sexually, but the 2 people in the relationship gotta be on the same page to be able to pull it off together.

Not all of my above comments are directly aimed at your current situation, some are just hypothetical examples to help you set a perspective.

Well, hellooooooooooooooo Dr. Phil.

[Xens]

Originally Posted by shimshimhada

Well, hellooooooooooooooo Dr. Phil.

YEAH? Well I better consider a major in psychology then.

[shimshimhada]

Originally Posted by Xens

YEAH? Well I better consider a major in psychology then.

Nah, you need to major in Business and learn how to condescend to the extreme

[Nikki]

Well we talk about everything, and he knows exactly what is going on. We just don't know what to do to make me feel like he's not my brother.

[Enroutte]

Originally Posted by shimshimhada

Well, hellooooooooooooooo Dr. Phil.

LOL.


Anyway... I totally agree with what the 2 posts above me said.. except..

Try to work it out.. but if you see that it's not going anywhere, I'd just give it up. I know, that sounds pathetic. And.. "Only losers give up easily." But seriously.. I'd just let it go. A lot of times, people hold on to relationships that aren't going anywhere anymore. People hold on because they hope things will change, they hope the other perosn will somehow change and realistically, most times, the other person isn't going to change. So.. gooodd luck with that. Ill keep my fingers crossed for you!


Yeah.. dont prolong the inevitable (that is.. if u know u really dont wana be with him anymore)