[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by Mr.SugarSkulls

Im with you- life would be easier if you could just tell a girl you like her, plain and simple. (Insert end scene of hitch here)

But if a girl is still playing games with the dude- he has to balance the power some. It's not how it usually works in today's "social media/tinder" age.

Might not be what you like- but it is what it is.

TL&DR
I'm right, SS is wrong.
Be real and be happy.
I'm old.
Bimmette is cool.
Aatish is Ron Weasely.


Interesting. I assumed his intent was to move to the next step, whatever that may be. I had not assumed his sole objective was to make her think she likes him by being someone he isn't. My advice was authenticity, because I thought he wanted something romantic. Otherwise, you could go a long time and then one of you isn't happy - either because "the player" doesn't want to keep up the act or "the played" figures out the person she fell in love with is not the one she's still with. I suppose the quality of the advice depends on what your real objective is.
As for your last paragraph, hehehe. I will cop to being a middle aged white dude who is out of the game, but the real keepers don't want it to be a game. I won't pretend to know her situation, but I suspect bimmette is single because she has standards and doesn't play the game you're talking about. I imagine that's her choice, not something she wants desperately to fix, but can't. Plus, who knows, maybe she's getting all kinds of D, but doesn't want to tell us all? And we'll see about the alleged "escape from the friend zone". At least he has gotten closer to the truth, which is the ultimate goal, no? To fish or cut bait? I think you may be a tiny bit jaded my friend.

[Mr.SugarSkulls]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

TL&DR
I'm right, SS is wrong.
Be real and be happy.
I'm old.
Bimmette is cool.
Aatish is Ron Weasely.


Interesting. I assumed his intent was to move to the next step, whatever that may be. I had not assumed his sole objective was to make her think she likes him by being someone he isn't. My advice was authenticity, because I thought he wanted something romantic. Otherwise, you could go a long time and then one of you isn't happy - either because "the player" doesn't want to keep up the act or "the played" figures out the person she fell in love with is not the one she's still with. I suppose the quality of the advice depends on what your real objective is.
As for your last paragraph, hehehe. I will cop to being a middle aged white dude who is out of the game, but the real keepers don't want it to be a game. I won't pretend to know her situation, but I suspect bimmette is single because she has standards and doesn't play the game you're talking about. I imagine that's her choice, not something she wants desperately to fix, but can't. Plus, who knows, maybe she's getting all kinds of D, but doesn't want to tell us all? And we'll see about the alleged "escape from the friend zone". At least he has gotten closer to the truth, which is the ultimate goal, no? To fish or cut bait? I think you may be a tiny bit jaded my friend.

Tldr

But dont get butt hurt. That wasn't my intent.

You know I only come around here to stir up the pot from time to time. He'll probably listen to you guys anyways

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by Mr.SugarSkulls

Tldr

But dont get butt hurt. That wasn't my intent.

You know I only come around here to stir up the pot from time to time. He'll probably listen to you guys anyways

No worries, not butthurt. Hey, you out East yet. I think F87LUV is down to meet. She has an M car. You got rid of yours for an EV hybrid thing, right. You two should meet up!

[Mr.SugarSkulls]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

No worries, not butthurt. Hey, you out East yet. I think F87LUV is down to meet. She has an M car. You got rid of yours for an EV hybrid thing, right. You two should meet up!

I leave Sunday.

I'm over meeting people off this application. People think just cause of my online persona- I want to bone anything and everything.

I can be people's friends too ya know.

So I'm just going to hang out with people I meet along the way. And if not- bowsers cooler company than most anyways.

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by Mr.SugarSkulls

I leave Sunday.

I'm over meeting people off this application. People think just cause of my online persona- I want to bone anything and everything.

I can be people's friends too ya know.

So I'm just going to hang out with people I meet along the way. And if not- bowsers cooler company than most anyways.

Whoa - I meant as friends, but... Ya know. Heeeeyyyy wait a minute - the lack of interest thing... Playing it cool. Damn son, you ARE good. you're secret is safe with me! Hah. Seriously though, Bowser is awesome - way cooler than humans.

[Mr.SugarSkulls]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

Whoa - I meant as friends, but... Ya know. Heeeeyyyy wait a minute - the lack of interest thing... Playing it cool. Damn son, you ARE good. you're secret is safe with me! Hah. Seriously though, Bowser is awesome - way cooler than humans.

I mean....I'm not saying I know more about how to make a relationship more successful long term as some of you married folks....cause I obviously don't.


But I'm kind of like Hitch. I just know how to get in the door- the rest is up to you.

[bahasad]

Let me say - I just got out of a relationship a couple of weeks before I met the chick from Philly. The previous girl was great and all, but the fact that she was too clingy, was too easy to get, and got too comfortable (stopped looking after her appearance which was slightly below average to begin with, didn't seem to have any ambitions, and wasn't on the same level as me career/financial/etc.) was the reason I left her. But the good thing about her was she was always easy to talk to, always there for me, and wouldn't play the "i don't know what i want out of this game".

This girl is more on my level, but I don't like the fact that she plays aloof. She knows I like her - I feel like she is staying a little more detached to protect herself maybe? I don't know I'm really not too great in the relationship game, but I kind of made my intentions to her clear - I don't want to be friends.

Anyways, I stopped texting her yesterday around 9:00 PM. She usually sends me a good night text and a "what are you up to" text. None so far. I am going to go silent until Friday. Let's see what happens.

It would be really nice if I can talk to her in person, but that will have to wait 2 weeks until I'm back in Philly. I will make the situation clear then for sure. I agree with a little bit of what everybody is saying - I am going to distance myself for a day or two to see how she reacts, I will make the convo direct about this relationship business, the one on one date I will try to make it awesome (even though she was the one who suggested the bar/arcade in Philly).

[EALm4]

Originally Posted by bahasad

Let me say - I just got out of a relationship a couple of weeks before I met the chick from Philly. The previous girl was great and all, but the fact that she was too clingy, was too easy to get, and got too comfortable (stopped looking after her appearance which was slightly below average to begin with, didn't seem to have any ambitions, and wasn't on the same level as me career/financial/etc.) was the reason I left her. But the good thing about her was she was always easy to talk to, always there for me, and wouldn't play the "i don't know what i want out of this game".

This girl is more on my level, but I don't like the fact that she plays aloof. She knows I like her - I feel like she is staying a little more detached to protect herself maybe? I don't know I'm really not too great in the relationship game, but I kind of made my intentions to her clear - I don't want to be friends.

Anyways, I stopped texting her yesterday around 9:00 PM. She usually sends me a good night text and a "what are you up to" text. None so far. I am going to go silent until Friday. Let's see what happens.

It would be really nice if I can talk to her in person, but that will have to wait 2 weeks until I'm back in Philly. I will make the situation clear then for sure. I agree with a little bit of what everybody is saying - I am going to distance myself for a day or two to see how she reacts, I will make the convo direct about this relationship business, the one on one date I will try to make it awesome (even though she was the one who suggested the bar/arcade in Philly).

How far are you from Philly and how long you been talking to this female? Ghosting till friday is legit play.

[jtodd_fl]

Originally Posted by bahasad

Let me say - I just got out of a relationship a couple of weeks before I met the chick from Philly. The previous girl was great and all, but the fact that she was too clingy, was too easy to get, and got too comfortable (stopped looking after her appearance which was slightly below average to begin with, didn't seem to have any ambitions, and wasn't on the same level as me career/financial/etc.) was the reason I left her. But the good thing about her was she was always easy to talk to, always there for me, and wouldn't play the "i don't know what i want out of this game".

This girl is more on my level, but I don't like the fact that she plays aloof. She knows I like her - I feel like she is staying a little more detached to protect herself maybe? I don't know I'm really not too great in the relationship game, but I kind of made my intentions to her clear - I don't want to be friends.

Anyways, I stopped texting her yesterday around 9:00 PM. She usually sends me a good night text and a "what are you up to" text. None so far. I am going to go silent until Friday. Let's see what happens.

It would be really nice if I can talk to her in person, but that will have to wait 2 weeks until I'm back in Philly. I will make the situation clear then for sure. I agree with a little bit of what everybody is saying - I am going to distance myself for a day or two to see how she reacts, I will make the convo direct about this relationship business, the one on one date I will try to make it awesome (even though she was the one who suggested the bar/arcade in Philly).

Maybe she already got advice on this from a forum like this?

[Axius]

Originally Posted by jtodd_fl

Maybe she already got advice on this from a forum like this?

Nah probably a pickup artist forum more than likely.

[bahasad]

Originally Posted by EALm4

How far are you from Philly and how long you been talking to this female? Ghosting till friday is legit play.

I been talking to this female since June. I was in Philly for a week for 4th of July vacation - I met her 3 times within that week.

I currently live about 500 miles from Philly, about 8 hours. I was born about 45 minutes away from Philly, went to school in Philly, my parents, my sister, and some relatives live in the NJ suburbs around it

[Sara]

Well Im back from my 2nd Tinder date.

[///M Power-Belgium]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Well Im back from my 2nd Tinder date.

And ? ....

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by bahasad

Let me say - I just got out of a relationship a couple of weeks before I met the chick from Philly. The previous girl was great and all, but the fact that she was too clingy, was too easy to get, and got too comfortable (stopped looking after her appearance which was slightly below average to begin with, didn't seem to have any ambitions, and wasn't on the same level as me career/financial/etc.) was the reason I left her. But the good thing about her was she was always easy to talk to, always there for me, and wouldn't play the "i don't know what i want out of this game".

This girl is more on my level, but I don't like the fact that she plays aloof. She knows I like her - I feel like she is staying a little more detached to protect herself maybe? I don't know I'm really not too great in the relationship game, but I kind of made my intentions to her clear - I don't want to be friends.

Anyways, I stopped texting her yesterday around 9:00 PM. She usually sends me a good night text and a "what are you up to" text. None so far. I am going to go silent until Friday. Let's see what happens.

It would be really nice if I can talk to her in person, but that will have to wait 2 weeks until I'm back in Philly. I will make the situation clear then for sure. I agree with a little bit of what everybody is saying - I am going to distance myself for a day or two to see how she reacts, I will make the convo direct about this relationship business, the one on one date I will try to make it awesome (even though she was the one who suggested the bar/arcade in Philly).

Maybe she really is just an aloof idiot? If it's an act, then I'd roll out. No time for games.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Well Im back from my 2nd Tinder date.

Are you one of these chicks trying to turn it into a find a husband app?

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by Mr.SugarSkulls

Im with you- life would be easier if you could just tell a girl you like her, plain and simple. (Insert end scene of hitch here)

But if a girl is still playing games with the dude- he has to balance the power some. It's not how it usually works in today's "social media/tinder" age.

Might not be what you like- but it is what it is.

No, he needs to just roll out & live his life if he's a mature adult.

Maybe you like hanging around for back & forth drama, but that's not everyone's bag. Some of us don't need a relationship to validate our existence. (Not saying you do)

[Joekerr]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Well Im back from my 2nd Tinder date.

Felicitations! When is he/she due?

[EALm4]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Well Im back from my 2nd Tinder date.

same person or different?

[EALm4]

Originally Posted by bahasad

I been talking to this female since June. I was in Philly for a week for 4th of July vacation - I met her 3 times within that week.

I currently live about 500 miles from Philly, about 8 hours. I was born about 45 minutes away from Philly, went to school in Philly, my parents, my sister, and some relatives live in the NJ suburbs around it

I say just chill for a bit. Let her sweat it then hit her up. Waiting till Friday aint gonna hurt

[Sara]

Originally Posted by OrangeZ06

Are you one of these chicks trying to turn it into a find a husband app?

Absolutely

[Sara]

Originally Posted by EALm4

same person or different?

Same person! 2 dates (Well really 12 since I was there 12 days) in one month! Yay me.

[Never_Enough]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Absolutely