[Sara]

Alright guys and Bimmette, I'll report back and let everyone know what happens....

[Sara]

Originally Posted by bimmette

It takes literally three seconds to text her good morning, if he really wanted to.

She is right guys...

[grimlock]

Originally Posted by Douche

I am not the one not texting her. Leave me alone.

geez you're sensitive today.. period?

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Billup

Are good morning texts really necessary after one date though? I mean, I get it if you're more invested, but it has only been one date.

UM YES! He texted me at 7:01 am the morning after we met saying he had a really great time and he's looking forward to seeing me again.!!! and now he's quiet today? Dafuq?

[Sara]

Originally Posted by fleeked

Side note, what happened with your ex? If you care to discuss, don't mean to be nosy or get all up in your shit...

I thought things were good with him

Put me through HELL. Harrassed me to have an abortion, was physical with me before during and even after she was born. (I dont mean sex, I mean hitting, throwing things, knocking me down with an infant in my arms) He's hispanic, much older, and very ill tempered. I literally felt caged the past 3 years. I felt like I couldnt leave him even when I wanted to. I was scared. I wanted to jump off a bridge. I cried for nights on end because I was so unhappy.

This was the first date I had been on since I was freed from my past relationship. That's why this second date is such a big deal.

[grimlock]

Originally Posted by Sara504

UM YES! He texted me at 7:01 am the morning after we met saying he had a really great time and he's looking forward to seeing me again.!!! and now he's quiet today? Dafuq?

then you're upset and on page 3 of a thread because HE IS WORKING?

[Douche]

Originally Posted by grimlock

geez you're sensitive today.. period?

No you are sensitive! You are too! No you shut up. You started it! Mom!

[Taskmaster]

Let's say that this guy is just as much as a selfish narcissist we all believe him to be - then what?

[Nkc]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Put me through HELL. Harrassed me to have an abortion, was physical with me before during and even after she was born. (I dont mean sex, I mean hitting, throwing things, knocking me down with an infant in my arms) He's hispanic, much older, and very ill tempered. I literally felt caged the past 3 years. I felt like I couldnt leave him even when I wanted to. I was scared. I wanted to jump off a bridge. I cried for nights on end because I was so unhappy.

Worst part was that he's poor.

[Douche]

So this is why I say these pointless dumbass threads always get the most attention, and it's proved over and over...

Checking out. Good luck with sale.

[grimlock]

Originally Posted by TheAxiom

Let's say that this guy is just as much as a selfish narcissist we all believe him to be - then what?

then thats the guy she wants - J/K

[Billup]

Originally Posted by Sara504

UM YES! He texted me at 7:01 am the morning after we met saying he had a really great time and he's looking forward to seeing me again.!!! and now he's quiet today? Dafuq?

Another instance where everyone is different. I kind of agree with Boss, if he was attentative one day, and not so much the next, he is either waiting on you, or he has another woman that you don't know about.


All questions none of us have the answer to.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by grimlock

then you're upset and on page 3 of a thread because HE IS WORKING?

Before we had our first date, he'd send me videos every morning. Funny ones. Now he doesnt. "/

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Billup

Another instance where everyone is different. I kind of agree with Boss, if he was attentative one day, and not so much the next, he is either waiting on you, or he has another woman that you don't know about.


All questions none of us have the answer to.

You know, I think you're right.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Douche

So this is why I say these pointless dumbass threads always get the most attention, and it's proved over and over...

Checking out. Good luck with sale.

Oh I needed that laugh

[Billup]

Originally Posted by Sara504

You know, I think you're right.

Stop worrying so much about him, and having so much pressure on the second date. This is going to kill it before it even starts. Ease up, sit back, take a deep breath, and just RELAX. When you get to a point where you are in tune with just living in the moment, it's going to be a revelation. I can tell there is a ton going through your head, and until it resides, things may not work out the way you want them to.

[grimlock]

Originally Posted by Billup

Stop worrying so much about him, and having so much pressure on the second date. This is going to kill it before it even starts. Ease up, sit back, take a deep breath, and just RELAX. When you get to a point where you are in tune with just living in the moment, it's going to be a revelation. I can tell there is a ton going through your head, and until it resides, things may not work out the way you want them to.

This right here.
You can and are taking care of another human life - what is a an erect penis to you?
U go, gurl.

[jaco]

No text by now isn't good or he is busy, no real in-between IMO.

Been there done that.

[Sara]

Originally Posted by Billup

Stop worrying so much about him, and having so much pressure on the second date. This is going to kill it before it even starts. Ease up, sit back, take a deep breath, and just RELAX. When you get to a point where you are in tune with just living in the moment, it's going to be a revelation. I can tell there is a ton going through your head, and until it resides, things may not work out the way you want them to.

Youre absolutely right!

I just deleted our text convo and his number out of my phone!

[V1.47fan]

Originally Posted by fleeked

Side note 2: If you want someone to text you good morning, not only will I do that, I will wake you up with amazing, passionate sex every single day. I'm a man's man baby gurl, texxxxt it

Originally Posted by Sara504

Exactly my point. I've got one guy texting me that I've already blown off TWICE for a date and he still was texting me yesterday. Ugh. It's always the ones we dont want.

What Sara thinks about your offer...

[Billup]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Youre absolutely right!

I just deleted our text convo and his number out of my phone!

Smart girl. Really focus on yourself and think about what it is that you want. You're going to go through all these bouts of guys not calling, not doing this or that, and it boils down to what you can accept or not.

I'm having the same struggle with someone right now. Misaligned perceptions on what we want. What's working for one person, might not be working for the other, and in turn, causes issues. No way to live.

Now that I've finally coerced you into getting him out of the picture, when can I take you on a date?

[Lups]

Originally Posted by Sara504

Put me through HELL. Harrassed me to have an abortion, was physical with me before during and even after she was born. (I dont mean sex, I mean hitting, throwing things, knocking me down with an infant in my arms) He's hispanic, much older, and very ill tempered. I literally felt caged the past 3 years. I felt like I couldnt leave him even when I wanted to. I was scared. I wanted to jump off a bridge. I cried for nights on end because I was so unhappy.

This was the first date I had been on since I was freed from my past relationship. That's why this second date is such a big deal.

Hi Sara.

After all you've been through, it takes a lot of time to heal. I had a friend with a similar past and it took her two years to get back to a place where she felt good enough about herself to feel like she had something to offer again.
You'll get there but time is needed. Don't let the first try to get you down.