Why do girls expect guys to ALWAYS pay?

DougLikesBMW · 09-03-2010, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by GhostRideTheWhip

It's the "Manly" thing to do.

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Originally Posted by GhostRideTheWhip

I have not read everything, but it looks like we've got some sexist posters.

Keep putting the pussy on the pedestal...You're pussywhipped.

Freakazoid · 09-03-2010, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by DougLikesBMW

Keep putting the pussy on the pedestal...You're pussywhipped.

OC Guy · 09-03-2010, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Elie335

hello Sara, are you reading? lul

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Originally Posted by GhostRideTheWhip

It's the "Manly" thing to do.

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Originally Posted by GhostRideTheWhip

I have not read everything, but it looks like we've got some sexist posters.

Sarah is that you?

chungdae · 09-03-2010, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by shipill

Okay when I go out with girls who are just my friends, they dont usually offer to slpit the bill and they make lame exuces like oh sorry I dont have cash or next time I will pay the bill and when we go out again they say the same thing lol

I dont understand this? Girls have jobs these days they can support themselves !!

You're getting played.

Alexander · 09-03-2010, 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Seminole

You need new friends. I've never had a girl who was just a friend ask me to pay or expect me to.

Word thats crazy. Hell even a gf I'd expect her to pay at the bare minimum 20% of all dates etc. 50/50 is ideal.

^ That's for a gf not some friend.

Alexander · 09-03-2010, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Alpine3

Wow this is a really annoying topic. Ok lets say its your gf. You guys are seeing each other and aren't that serious yet. I've picked up the tab for like a month, but shouldn't there come a time a couple starts splitting the bill. I mean come on we are both adults and have jobs. What are your opinions on that one?

Yeah first couple of dates make it obvious that you are going out of your way to pay, then it should naturally fall 50/50, if not talk to the girl about it, and if she doesn't understand kick her to the curb.

dragon1761 · 09-20-2010, 02:00 AM

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Originally Posted by shipill

Okay when I go out with girls who are just my friends, they dont usually offer to slpit the bill and they make lame exuces like oh sorry I dont have cash or next time I will pay the bill and when we go out again they say the same thing lol

I dont understand this? Girls have jobs these days they can support themselves !!

your being used and abused.

Oregano123 · 09-20-2010, 04:12 AM

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Originally Posted by wj4

If you're rich and know of what they're doing and is OK with it..then that's cool. I know a couple of affluent males who hang out with some girls and are expected to pay for everything. They're OK with it. They keep these girls around as pets, as they put it.

that's what i call community college chicks

BRAISKI · 09-20-2010, 01:51 PM

If its friends, I usually make sure I order separately its easier that way.

However if its a girl I am trying to go out. I have no problems paying for the first date but if she offers to pay her half then thats a big plus! Then I will tell her next time... (if there is a next time). If a girl offers to pay, it kinda makes me wanna pay the bill more lol but I try not to spoil them. Unless if its her bday or a special occasion.

I believe in equality between men and women esp when paying

The thing with me though is I am not one of those guys who likes to constantly buy them "gifts" and I will never buy them jewelry unless its a fiancee. I know a lot of guys are a sucker. There are many ways/things I can make them happy without buying gifts/jewelry. If she is a gold digger then she will never be happy and I will not waste my time with her. I am not cheap I am just smart with money and with girls. I dont let them take advantage over me perhaps like the previous guys they sucked in. A lot of "nice" guy will spend so much to the girls.

I always tell the girls that I go out with, that I am not a nice guy (maybe sometimes) but I am a gentleman. Some ppl know the difference and some dont... Nice guys will get walked all over.

The thing with me is that when ppl see I drive a nice car and now a new BMW or a BMW for that matter and when they know where I work they see $$$$$ and I will never tell a girl how much I earn maybe "approx" between $45k - $95k lol.

DarkRider23 · 09-20-2010, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by BRAISKI

The thing with me is that when ppl see I drive a nice car and now a new BMW or a BMW for that matter and when they know where I work they see $$$$$ and I will never tell a girl how much I earn maybe "approx" between $45k - $95k lol.

Worst thing you could ever do is tell her how much you make.

NYCGarbagePrince · 09-20-2010, 02:54 PM

hah, if you are bringing up how much you make to a girl you barely know... you got some issues.

My favorite line to a girl that offers to pay for something is, "I appreciate the reach, but it's not necessary."

If you meet up some place without prior planning than it might be called for. But, you are missing an opportunity to fill the role of gentleman. However, this only applies to girls who are worth it. Dirty whores get enough drinks to get them drunk enough to get taken advantage of. After that they are lucky to get cab fare!

IMHO, if a plan was set in stone to go out to dinner together, it is the man's responsibility to pay. If you can't afford to take her to dinner, learn to cook. This is your first opportunity to prove your ability to provide for a woman. Once again, this only applies to nice girls, not whores.

Who asks someone out to dinner and then makes them pay for it!??! Doesn't seem right to me...

BRAISKI · 09-20-2010, 03:06 PM

There are some guys out there who wants to brag about how much they earn esp if they want to get laid quick lol.

But for me if the girl ask about how much I earn that already a deal breaker. Unless I am serious with her and dating for sometime.

BRAISKI · 09-20-2010, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by NYCGarbagePrince

If you meet up some place without prior planning than it might be called for. But, you are missing an opportunity to fill the role of gentleman. However, this only applies to girls who are worth it. Dirty whores get enough drinks to get them drunk enough to get taken advantage of. After that they are lucky to get cab fare!

IMHO, if a plan was set in stone to go out to dinner together, it is the man's responsibility to pay. If you can't afford to take her to dinner, learn to cook. This is your first opportunity to prove your ability to provide for a woman. Once again, this only applies to nice girls, not whores.

Who asks someone out to dinner and then makes them pay for it!??! Doesn't seem right to me...

Hahaha if I remember correctly I never bought a chick a drink at a club/bar before unless they are with me already. Mind you I still got laid without buying them drinks lol.

Depends how you ask if you say, "I'd like to take you out for dinner" then it sounds like you will pay for it. But if you say "We should go out for dinner sometime" then both of you can pay half and half...

aut0sh0cker · 09-20-2010, 04:24 PM

Maybe it's just my friend circles, but I don't know any girls who would ever expect me to pay for them. That's not to say I don't pay (I usually offer at least) but I never feel obligated to. I'm not sure how I would respond if a girl asked me to pay for her all the time...

BTM · 09-20-2010, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by bmwhype

that's what i call community college chicks

NYCGarbagePrince · 09-21-2010, 07:22 AM

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Originally Posted by aut0sh0cker

Maybe it's just my friend circles, but I don't know any girls who would ever expect me to pay for them. That's not to say I don't pay (I usually offer at least) but I never feel obligated to. I'm not sure how I would respond if a girl asked me to pay for her all the time...

Hmmm... You would say, "Yes, dear." Have a girlfriend for an extended period of time and you will learn all sorts of new things.

NYCGarbagePrince · 09-21-2010, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by aut0sh0cker

Maybe it's just my friend circles, but I don't know any girls who would ever expect me to pay for them. That's not to say I don't pay (I usually offer at least) but I never feel obligated to. I'm not sure how I would respond if a girl asked me to pay for her all the time...

Hmmm... You would say, "Yes, dear." Have a girlfriend for an extended period of time and you will learn all sorts of new things.

Comet · 09-21-2010, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by NYCGarbagePrince

Hmmm... You would say, "Yes, dear." Have a girlfriend for an extended period of time and you will learn all sorts of new things.

this

been with mine for 2 1/2 years.. I'm doing things I didnt think I'd ever do... *sigh*

Freakazoid · 09-21-2010, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Comet

this

been with mine for 2 1/2 years.. I'm doing things I didnt think I'd ever do... *sigh*

pussy

haha jk

NYCGarbagePrince · 09-21-2010, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Freakazoid

pussy

That's exactly what we do it for... that and... those pesky emotions that didn't exist before we met them...

Freakazoid · 09-21-2010, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by NYCGarbagePrince

That's exactly what we do it for... that and... those pesky emotions that didn't exist before we met them...

hahahahah touche

MediaArtist · 09-21-2010, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by shipill

Okay when I go out with girls who are just my friends, they dont usually offer to slpit the bill and they make lame exuces like oh sorry I dont have cash or next time I will pay the bill and when we go out again they say the same thing lol

I dont understand this? Girls have jobs these days they can support themselves !!

Never, ever pay more than $10 on a "date" (coffee/tea/snack) with a girl you're not intimately involved with. At that point, it's all about getting to know each other anyway.

I have friends who met women on Match.com, and then went on $150 sushi dates the first time they met, and had to shoulder the bill. That's a classic symptom of having no game.

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BRAISKI Colonel 140 Rep 2,517 Posts Drives: '11 335xi e92 M-Pak Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: GTA/KW, Canada iTrader: (3) Garage List 2011 BMW 335xi [7.00]	If its friends, I usually make sure I order separately its easier that way. However if its a girl I am trying to go out. I have no problems paying for the first date but if she offers to pay her half then thats a big plus! Then I will tell her next time... (if there is a next time). If a girl offers to pay, it kinda makes me wanna pay the bill more lol but I try not to spoil them. Unless if its her bday or a special occasion. I believe in equality between men and women esp when paying The thing with me though is I am not one of those guys who likes to constantly buy them "gifts" and I will never buy them jewelry unless its a fiancee. I know a lot of guys are a sucker. There are many ways/things I can make them happy without buying gifts/jewelry. If she is a gold digger then she will never be happy and I will not waste my time with her. I am not cheap I am just smart with money and with girls. I dont let them take advantage over me perhaps like the previous guys they sucked in. A lot of "nice" guy will spend so much to the girls. I always tell the girls that I go out with, that I am not a nice guy (maybe sometimes) but I am a gentleman. Some ppl know the difference and some dont... Nice guys will get walked all over. The thing with me is that when ppl see I drive a nice car and now a new BMW or a BMW for that matter and when they know where I work they see $$$$$ and I will never tell a girl how much I earn maybe "approx" between $45k - $95k lol. __________________ My 2011 ED @ BMW Welt, one of the best days of my life! Full front PPF!
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NYCGarbagePrince Major 254 Rep 1,435 Posts Drives: X6 50i Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: NYC iTrader: (0)	hah, if you are bringing up how much you make to a girl you barely know... you got some issues. My favorite line to a girl that offers to pay for something is, "I appreciate the reach, but it's not necessary." If you meet up some place without prior planning than it might be called for. But, you are missing an opportunity to fill the role of gentleman. However, this only applies to girls who are worth it. Dirty whores get enough drinks to get them drunk enough to get taken advantage of. After that they are lucky to get cab fare! IMHO, if a plan was set in stone to go out to dinner together, it is the man's responsibility to pay. If you can't afford to take her to dinner, learn to cook. This is your first opportunity to prove your ability to provide for a woman. Once again, this only applies to nice girls, not whores. Who asks someone out to dinner and then makes them pay for it!??! Doesn't seem right to me...
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BRAISKI Colonel 140 Rep 2,517 Posts Drives: '11 335xi e92 M-Pak Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: GTA/KW, Canada iTrader: (3) Garage List 2011 BMW 335xi [7.00]	There are some guys out there who wants to brag about how much they earn esp if they want to get laid quick lol. But for me if the girl ask about how much I earn that already a deal breaker. Unless I am serious with her and dating for sometime. __________________ My 2011 ED @ BMW Welt, one of the best days of my life! Full front PPF!
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aut0sh0cker meh 125 Rep 1,752 Posts Drives: E92 335i, 997.2 C4S Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: 91362 iTrader: (2)	Maybe it's just my friend circles, but I don't know any girls who would ever expect me to pay for them. That's not to say I don't pay (I usually offer at least) but I never feel obligated to. I'm not sure how I would respond if a girl asked me to pay for her all the time...
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