Isn't anyone single anymore?

Enroutte · 01-15-2006, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Explorer3253

You always want what you can't have...and when you have it..you take it for granted

so true! all the boys i want have girlfriends

kal-el · 01-15-2006, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Enroutte

so true! all the boys i want have girlfriends

oh, you poor thing...

shimshimhada · 01-15-2006, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Enroutte

so true! all the boys i want have girlfriends

SCA · 01-15-2006, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Dante

Haha, I see you never went to a park with a sweet little baby in a stroller. I took my nephew once. Babe magnet!

I'm a father of a child who is now 5. Doesn't work too well in a large college town.

ward · 01-15-2006, 10:26 PM

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Originally Posted by BellasBmw

No lie, but hot guys with little kids is definitely a turn on. But you gotta look past that and think "baggage...baggage" haha.

Guys have it rough nowadays. They are working a very fine line. You cant be too nice, or else we'll be bored. You cant be a dick, cause then we'll go elsewhere for someone who will treat us better. I need a guy who will keep me on my toes. But dont you hate that the ones you really want, are always taken!

exactly the opposite of a girl with kids, I see kids, I run the other way

a girl with kids is a deal breaker at this point in my life

BMW0 · 01-15-2006, 10:35 PM

When you least expect it... thats all I have to say about this subject. And sharp1183 keep up the good work.

Enroutte · 01-15-2006, 11:08 PM

I don't flock to men with kids. I AM a kid. I can hardly take care of myself, I don't want to date another person who has baggage.

BellasBmw · 01-15-2006, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by ward

exactly the opposite of a girl with kids, I see kids, I run the other way

a girl with kids is a deal breaker at this point in my life

Yeah if i had a kid, i know i wouldnt get nearly 3/4 as many dates. It would just be a huge turn off. But i dont mean im gonna go and date as many dads as i can, im just sayin that it does bring a nuturing side to the man.

arn · 01-16-2006, 12:13 AM

I agree with you 101% on that~!
I'm currently in a relationship for almost 5 years now... Yet I still feel lonely. Lets just say I'd rather be single now.

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Originally Posted by Explorer3253

You always want what you can't have...and when you have it..you take it for granted

deutschmann59 · 01-16-2006, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Explorer3253

You always want what you can't have...and when you have it..you take it for granted

Ha ha ha! That reminds me of that one quote Christian Troy made on Nip/Tuck...hmmmm let's see...it goes something like "for every beautiful woman you see, there's a guy that's tired of banging her"

Ha ha ha ha ha ha !!!

That is the coolest show on TV!

SCA · 01-16-2006, 12:44 AM

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Originally Posted by BellasBmw

im just sayin that it does bring a nuturing side to the man.

Being a caring and loving father can seriously make a man a better person. Brings about some positive changes.

E90-4life · 01-16-2006, 01:34 AM

I use to have real issues w/ always being single, but now that I know why I am, I'm perfectly ok w/ it. I'm a quality guy and I just don't settle for any girl, besides that my thinking is at times much beyond where most girls heads are. So it means more when I find a girl I click w/ and can enjoy her company, but even then I'm not really too incredibly anxious for anything to happen, just sailing and enjoying the scenery.

Explorer3253 · 01-16-2006, 08:59 AM

Well if you still feel lonely and you've been in a 5 year relationship, you may want to re-evaluate your relationship....It may be that you are just very comfortable with her presence and afraid to let go....Let me tell you...its not a safe thing and will def hurt you in the future...(been there done that)...don't get me wrong..if I got what I wanted from her (the sense of belonging), I probably would have never had that feeling of loneliness (sp)

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Originally Posted by arn

I agree with you 101% on that~!
I'm currently in a relationship for almost 5 years now... Yet I still feel lonely. Lets just say I'd rather be single now.

NaTuReB0Y · 01-16-2006, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by sharp1183

...it goes something like "for every beautiful woman you see, there's a guy that's tired of banging her"

That's the law of "Marginal Utility!"

CnoteMD · 01-16-2006, 07:54 PM

Someone here mentioned that women always want what they can't have. I think the more appropriate statement is that they want what they can't and/or shouldn't have. Having a gf seems to always make you more desirable to most women.

Back when I was single, I used to also wonder where all to find a good woman. Then I started noticing a pattern. While I was single, there were no women to be found, but as soon as I got into a relationship women were coming out of the woodwork trying to date me. I looked carefully at that situation and realized that I was the same person with a girlfriend or without, but the difference was that when I had a gf, I was no longer looking. Even when I didn't have a gf, I would typically meet somone once I got to the point that I was fed up and stopped looking.

Now, I've been married for 5 years and I can see the same is still true. For hygiene reasons, I often don't wear my wedding band to work. On the days that I do wear my band, I seem to get more women flirting with me. So once again, we get to that idea of wanting what you shouldn't have.

I guess women have this 6th sense where they can tell when a guy is looking for a woman, which is likely an unattractive attribute. So, my advise is just stop looking for a gf and then things will eventually work themselves out.

ward · 01-16-2006, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by NaTuReB0Y

That's the law of "Marginal Utility!"

you just had to take something gutter and make it sound appropriate for dinner conversation didn't you!

ThreeBimm · 01-16-2006, 09:10 PM

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After college, I came back to work for my family, and now here I am in a world of no opportunities.

I did the same thing. Thankfully, a handful of my high school friends are still around here or else I would have gone crazy by now.

I do agree with everyone who has said you find someone when you're not looking, or at least that's certainly how it seems.

db17k · 01-16-2006, 11:23 PM

How about you all stop talking about getting boyfriends/girlfriends on a "SATURDAY NIGHT" and go meet some new people!! just a suggestion.

deutschmann59 · 01-17-2006, 12:26 AM

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I can't believe how hard it is to meet girls.

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I'm tired of going out with my friends to bars and clubs every weekend because all my friends have girlfriends, and then there's me...the tag-along. They don't treat me like that, but that's how I feel. That's why I haven't even gone out with them in like three months now. You know...I could go out, but I just don't want to anymore.

BellasBmw · 01-17-2006, 01:03 AM

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Someone here mentioned that women always want what they can't have. I think the more appropriate statement is that they want what they can't and/or shouldn't have. Having a gf seems to always make you more desirable to most women.

Its so true. I always want the guys i cant have. And its bad, the guy who is harder to get is the one i want more. I dont even look at the nice sweet single guy, i want the one whose taken.. i guess its a harder challenge and the chase is the best part. But, i def dont like ruining relationships, so ill try to stay away.

db17k · 01-17-2006, 01:04 AM

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You know...I could go out, but I just don't want to anymore.

No one ever gets a girlfriend by sitting around out home. you've gotta put yourself out there, even if it's flirting with the hot girl at nordstroms that helped you pick out a shirt. sooner or later you get a bite on whatever hook your baiting and SHHHAAAAZZAAAAMMM!

BellasBmw · 01-17-2006, 01:09 AM

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No one ever gets a girlfriend by sitting around out home. you've gotta put yourself out there, even if it's flirting with the hot girl at nordstroms that helped you pick out a shirt.

Its true.
And let me tell u somethin else. The guy who doesnt outwardly flirt with me is the one ill be more interested in. For example.. tonight at work i had 2 guys come in to eat. Both 28yrs old. I never thought the one guy was attractive..so i didnt really pay attention. But then we started talkin about the east coast (hes from jersey) and his personality caught my eye. He never forwardly asked for my # nor did he say i was cute/hot/whatever.. But that sparked an interest in me cause he wasnt pushy.

If u want a girl, dont act interested. She'll be SO curious as to why u never asked her out, she'll prob ask u first.

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CnoteMD Commander in Chief 38 Rep 1,034 Posts Drives: 2008 BMW 535i Join Date: May 2005 Location: Atlanta, GA iTrader: (0) Garage List 2008 M5 [0.00] 2006 330i [0.00]	Someone here mentioned that women always want what they can't have. I think the more appropriate statement is that they want what they can't and/or shouldn't have. Having a gf seems to always make you more desirable to most women. Back when I was single, I used to also wonder where all to find a good woman. Then I started noticing a pattern. While I was single, there were no women to be found, but as soon as I got into a relationship women were coming out of the woodwork trying to date me. I looked carefully at that situation and realized that I was the same person with a girlfriend or without, but the difference was that when I had a gf, I was no longer looking. Even when I didn't have a gf, I would typically meet somone once I got to the point that I was fed up and stopped looking. Now, I've been married for 5 years and I can see the same is still true. For hygiene reasons, I often don't wear my wedding band to work. On the days that I do wear my band, I seem to get more women flirting with me. So once again, we get to that idea of wanting what you shouldn't have. I guess women have this 6th sense where they can tell when a guy is looking for a woman, which is likely an unattractive attribute. So, my advise is just stop looking for a gf and then things will eventually work themselves out. __________________ 2008 BMW 535i Space Gray, Black Leather, Dark Bamboo Trim\| Sport Automatic with Paddles \| Sport Package 2008 BMW M5 (gone, but not forgotten) Space Gray, Silverstone Merino Leather, Madeira Walnut Wood Trim \| 7speed SMG \| All options Mods: Corsa Exhaust \| RPI Ram Air Intake \| H&R Sport Springs \| Rogue Engineering 12mm spacers
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