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      06-25-2011, 05:05 AM   #1
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Should men pay for everything??

Alright I need some advice. I've been dating this girl for about 3 months. Every time we have gone out to eat or for drinks she expects me to pay. She doesn't even say thanks. Tonight I dropped 100 on dinner and for her it was no big deal, but for me it was kinda the last straw. What infuriates me is that this is what a men does according to her. I brought up about her never taking me out and she calls me a cheap skate and so what I spent 100 on dinner. I mentioned about 2 weeks ago about going to Cancun in Sept. I told her she better start saving her pennies and she was like for what? I told her for Cancun and she expects me to fork that bill to. According to her she is worth it and again that's what men do.

I really love this girl, but I'm thinking about throwing in the towel. She will like cook me dinner if I ask her, the one time she did my wash for me and she genuinely loves me not to mention really good sex anytime I want oh and shes extremely hot!! I'm just so pissed off at this whole dating thing. Right when you think you found a good one you start thinking maybe this isn't the one.

What are some opinions out there? Are you with someone and you are in the same boat or are you in a long term relationship with someone and you think this is all fine?
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      06-25-2011, 05:12 AM   #2
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Alright I need some advice. I've been dating this girl for about 3 months. Every time we have gone out to eat or for drinks she expects me to pay. She doesn't even say thanks. Tonight I dropped 100 on dinner and for her it was no big deal, but for me it was kinda the last straw. What infuriates me is that this is what a men does according to her. I brought up about her never taking me out and she calls me a cheap skate and so what I spent 100 on dinner. I mentioned about 2 weeks ago about going to Cancun in Sept. I told her she better start saving her pennies and she was like for what? I told her for Cancun and she expects me to fork that bill to. According to her she is worth it and again that's what men do.

I really love this girl, but I'm thinking about throwing in the towel. She will like cook me dinner if I ask her, the one time she did my wash for me and she genuinely loves me not to mention really good sex anytime I want oh and shes extremely hot!! I'm just so pissed off at this whole dating thing. Right when you think you found a good one you start thinking maybe this isn't the one.

What are some opinions out there? Are you with someone and you are in the same boat or are you in a long term relationship with someone and you think this is all fine?
bitch has a case of attitude problems. one big thing: you mentioned really good sex. your emotions are obviously right in there. cut and run, bro. sex is great, but you're emotionally wrapped around a piece of crap. i'm not saying for a second that buying her dinner and nice things isn't okay, but something like a vacation should be split if it's a true relationship. it's both ways, man. sounds like this is majorly one way.

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      06-25-2011, 05:30 AM   #3
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I don't usually post much, but this one bugged me. Only 3 months and she already sounds like that? To me she sounds like the cheap one, no offense. Good couples treat each other equally (or at least have trade offs). No one person should be expected to pay for everything. Save yourself the trouble, time, and money.
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      06-25-2011, 05:44 AM   #4
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fuck that noise...stop paying for things and see if she sticks around
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      06-25-2011, 06:09 AM   #5
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      06-25-2011, 07:37 AM   #6
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Who should pay?

Why do girls expect guys to ALWAYS pay?
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      06-25-2011, 09:20 AM   #7
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No. Guys don't have to pay all the time. Shit should be 50/50.
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      06-25-2011, 10:08 AM   #8
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      06-25-2011, 11:35 AM   #9
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She's a gold digger. Google it.
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      06-25-2011, 11:38 AM   #10
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Does she work and have her own money?
Sounds like if you move in together she will take you to the cleaners.
I could see it if she is low on income but she should occasionally offer.
The worrisome part is that she expects it and doesn't seem to even appreciate your kindness= very bad sign.
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      06-25-2011, 11:40 AM   #11
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I don't usually post much, but this one bugged me. Only 3 months and she already sounds like that? To me she sounds like the cheap one, no offense. Good couples treat each other equally (or at least have trade offs). No one person should be expected to pay for everything. Save yourself the trouble, time, and money.
I guess she thinks the sex and her time is the trade off.
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      06-25-2011, 11:42 AM   #12
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Hit it like a champ before you drop her.

When she asks why you kicked her to the curb just tell her she had it coming and bounce. She'll do anything to get you back.
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      06-25-2011, 11:44 AM   #13
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if she buys weed, ill pay for every meal.
This. I mean, if she cooks, cleans, and does all of your work LIKE A WOMAN SHOULD DO then do your part, be the man, and pay for fucking dinner.

You have a bitch that knows her place. She's not supposed to pay unless she's got a respectable job and has her shit together, but if not, you cant expect her to pay lol... Consider the dinner your fee for eternal slavery... not a bad deal, considering you've gotta eat too.

as long as she returns the favor, and it seems like she does. but also consider, if she is "replaceable" then think about it real hard... is it worth it? plenty of other broads out there who will at least offer to pay out of courtesy, those are the gold diggers that have slightly better training in deception.
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      06-25-2011, 12:07 PM   #15
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oh man, here goes another one.



my wife cooks, cleans the house, takes care of the kids, washes clothes, irons my shirts, and keeps up with the bills.

i pay for everything inside and outside of the house: house, cars, insurance, phones, electricity, groceries, vehicle maintenance, blah blah blah
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oh man, here goes another one.



my wife cooks, cleans the house, takes care of the kids, washes clothes, irons my shirts, and keeps up with the bills.

i pay for everything inside and outside of the house: house, cars, insurance, phones, electricity, groceries, vehicle maintenance, blah blah blah
no you dont :P

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seriously, post a pic. blur the face. lets just see the body. we will tell you if its worth it
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oh man, here goes another one.



my wife cooks, cleans the house, takes care of the kids, washes clothes, irons my shirts, and keeps up with the bills.

i pay for everything inside and outside of the house: house, cars, insurance, phones, electricity, groceries, vehicle maintenance, blah blah blah
She sounds foreign born to me, is she?
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      06-25-2011, 12:18 PM   #19
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I really love this girl....
Why? Add all the positives and negatives of yoru relationship up on a piece of paper and prioritize what is important to you and what is not. See what the total is at the bottom of the page.

Some advice....this is one of the main reasons I ended up divorcing my wife. You think it grinds on you after a few months. Think of how you will feel in 10 years when you are out busting your ass and come home to bitching and ungreatfulness.
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      06-25-2011, 12:19 PM   #20
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Why? Add all the positives and negatives of yoru relationship up on a piece of paper and prioritize what is important to you and what is not. See what the total is at the bottom of the page.

Some advice....this is one of the main reasons I ended up divorcing my wife. You think it grinds on you after a few months. Think of how you will feel in 10 years when you are out busting your ass and come home to bitching and ungreatfulness.
Was she cheating as well?
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Gold digger. I know this type very well... the hard way. Protip: don't use BMWs to lure them. They expect bank if you do.
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